May 19, 2011

Stop the Insanity!

  • (of someone suffering from a disease) Suffer deterioration after a period of improvement
  • A deterioration in someone's state of health after a temporary improvement
    Return to (a less active or a worse state)
  • go back to bad behavior
  • backsliding: a failure to maintain a higher state
I think we would be hard pressed to find someone who has attempted to lose weight and not, at some point, experienced relapse. It is a HUGE deal and it must be addressed. Because if we can beat relapse, we can win at losing!

There are clear-cut steps that can be taken to prevent a relapse. Here they are:
  1. Recognize
  2. Accept
  3. Avoid
Learn to Recognize Our Vulnerability
This is the "work" part of it. We have to be on the constant lookout for traps and temptations. At first this will be tough because it might take a relapse actually happening in order to recognize it. But when it does, write it down. The most effective way I have found to identify the root of temptation is to find patterns. Is the stumble always happening at the same place? With the same people? At the same time? Under the same circumstances? It's probably not about the food at all, but rather a situational trigger.

One pattern that I recognized early on is that every time I go to my parents' house (where I grew up) I am tempted. It is a conditioned response for me--every time I walk in the door I go straight to the pantry and then to the fridge. Rinse and repeat until I leave...And when I finally leave I am a mess because of everything I ate.

Accept Our Vulnerability
Was it easy to accept that going to my childhood home was going to be a problem for me? No. Was is easy to accept that restaurants cause me major problems? No. Was it easy to accept that one of my all time favorite things to do, Christmastime baking, leads me down a very dark path? No. Was it easy to accept that watching TV breeds inactivity and hinders my ability to care for the people I love? No. This is the hardest part. I love going to my parents' house and I thoroughly enjoy eating out. Baking brings joy to my soul and watching TV is relaxing. I could easily say that these things are part of "who I am" and I'm not willing to give them up or compromise where they are concerned. Indeed, I did just that for many years. But look where that got me. It wasn't until I chose to ACCEPT my vulnerabilities that I could deal with them.

Avoid Our Vulnerability
This is the part that is hard to swallow. This may mean completely avoiding certain acquaintances, places, and events because of the overwhelming temptation that accompanies them. Being alone at my parents' house is one thing I never do anymore. There was a period of time that I never went to a restaurant. Family's going? Not me. (I have developed some more self-control in this area now, so I do eat out more, but I still struggle) Eliminating something that has been a huge part of our life is difficult.

However, it doesn't always have to be an elimination. Perhaps rehearsing the way you'd like to see things play out would help. Or choosing a place to eat that has a healthy option you like. Maybe you could find a new route home that doesn't go past the Taco Bell. It takes some thought, some time and some determination, but we can save ourselves from falling back into the pit. We have to take responsibility and ownership of this process and make it work for us!

This little saying has meant so much to me: "If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got!" In other words, you can't keep living life the exact same way and expect to see different results. This is INSANITY!

Stop it.
Some ideas expressed in this post are adapted from the First Place 4 Health book, Simple Ideas for Healthy Living, article entitled "Relapse Prevention."


safire said...

:) Love it!

Stephanie said...

that was great!!! especially the saying at the end. gotta change it up!!!

alisonds said...

Great post! x

Anonymous said...

:( I don't like the "avoid" part. Just sayin.

That being siad, :) this is a Great post and was most helpful. It crystalized what I already knew in a way that made it way more real.

Uh-hum. Which means that I REALLY don't like the avoid part. At all.


Kristi said...

So very true. Jessalea and I just talked about lots of this last night. And because I'll be in Decatur this weekend I will definitely need your accountability. She told me I have to set times to check-in with you and actually talk once. I was telling her how very hard it is for me to be there and do well. :-\

Donna said...

Kaylie..this is so great! I need to really think this through. I know I have triggers. I remember that being on the road seems to trigger things...and reading and eating. I just quit reading. LoL! Whatever it takes. Sigh..I gained back all that I lost, but I'm trying again. You are such an inspiration!

Thanks so much for this blog. :o)

Donna @Comin' Home

Kimberlynn said...

I love this post Keelie. It was very insightful and gave some very practical tools for dealing w/ temptation. My favorite thing I'm taking away from this is to write down what I'm learning from my slip ups. For goodness sakes...I write down everything else!

Why didn't I think of that?

Stacie said...

Great post!!!

I'm recovering from a weight loss relapse now. So frustrating but I'm determined to get back to where I was.

Terry Bayer said...

How wonderful of you to share that last paragraph, Keelie. Thank you. You can do it, Stacie! Just focus! A natural diet is fine, and with the right exercise, getting fit can be easy.